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Sunday, May 28th, 2017 10:01 am
Today, I re-shared on Facebook something I also shared three years ago - an image of someone giving a cup of coffee to a homeless person, with the statement, "The world is full of nice people. If you can't find one, be one." I added, as I shared it, "This. And if you can find one, be one anyway. The world is full of nice people, and that's something we want to keep going, please."

Yesterday, I needed to go get potting mix. Which meant I was at Home Depot on Memorial Day weekend, which is really not when I would prefer to go there. The parking lot was a zoo. I saw someone start backing up then look THEN stop...just before he would have collided with the woman who had been walking behind his car before he put it in reverse. He DID stop and wait until she wasn't behind him. She was about to return her cart to the corral; I was returning mine and offered to walk hers over, after that incident. She thanked me...and was partway across the same space when she had to backpedal hastily to avoid being hit by the flaming idiot who came into the aisle (it was about the fourth space in) and headed for the space at a decent clip, slowing only a little when they realized SOMEONE WAS WALKING THERE.

When I left the parking lot, I had trouble getting out because of the lines of cars, and someone cut me off when they could visibly see I'd been waiting longer.

All this is to say that I was grumpy, agitated, and very nervous about people in general as I left. And I made a conscious, deliberate decision to let people in. It's too easy when we're grumpy to just go auto-pilot through our day and not delay it any further. After all, I'd already been delayed and worried and bothered! It felt good to be kind instead.

This is not I'm a saint. I'm pretty cruddy at this, actually. But I still do it. Because that's the kind of world I want to live in. Because it feels good.

I'm not saying that being nice or kind or standing up is always easy. Nor that it's always safe; in some circumstances there may be objective risks that outweigh being nice in your circumstance.

Side note about a good-samaritan case where two of them died, recently in the news )

...but often it _is_ simpler than that. What if you let someone turn out of a driveway during heavy traffic? Let someone with only a couple items go ahead of you in a grocery store? It's a small thing. Maybe all it does is brighten their day. Maybe it actually makes their life much easier than you realize. But if "all" it does is brighten their day, and _they_ go on to interact with the world more kindly....

Well. Many big things are built of lots and lots of small things. Not all. But many.
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Sunday, April 30th, 2017 07:45 pm
Hope is a verb - an action, not (just) a feeling. It can be a choice.

That doesn't mean it's easy, but it does mean it's possible.

(So is getting to bed on time, if I get back to what I'm supposed to be doing, so I think I'll post this and get back to the evening chores.)
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Thursday, April 27th, 2017 08:09 pm
Mostly because I have one again. I've been on antibiotics since Tuesday night, though, and it's responsive to decongestants again. Progress!
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Saturday, April 15th, 2017 09:12 am
Town Easter egg "hunt" in less than an hour now. Hunt is in quotes because they just set the plastic eggs out on the grass at the ball fields and turn the kids loose age-by-age in separate sections.

Candy, prizes, all that. Yes, we're going. Wish me luck, but this is the only scheduled thing I need to deal with this weekend. (Scott is taking Ian to a birthday party tho.)

And as usual, my instruction to my kids will be: NO PUSHING, whether they're smaller or bigger than you. This is a non-contact sport.

His first year doing it, Ian stopped and opened eggs, and got all of three. He doesn't do that any more, but you know, I'm fine with it if he does. I like watching them get all excited. I don't mind if they don't get anything else out of it.
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Tuesday, April 11th, 2017 10:01 pm

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Friday, April 7th, 2017 06:38 pm
My LiveJournal is now deleted. I wasn't able to post a forwarding message - I wouldn't agree to the new Terms of Service just for that purpose. Using the ScriptSafe extension, however, I could get to the page needed to delete my journal.

I've been cross-posting with a Dreamwidth footer for a long time, and also it's the same user name, so hopefully anyone who wants to find me here can.

I am going to leave my parents' journals up there. They are done no harm by that, and while I doubt anyone (even me) still goes to look at them - if they do, then there's no reason to take them off.
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Friday, April 7th, 2017 05:38 pm
(Crossposted with Facebook, yes.)

Good flamin' gravy.

Ian's entire preschool was indoors all day...reasonably...because first thing this morning a tree came down between the two buildings, missing both of them and also any people, but clearly setting the tone for the day.

Andrew got to do recess in his classroom today, for similar reasoning, minus the object demonstration by mother nature.

Trees along my work parking lot had dropped branches as big around as my wrist or bigger, and ten+ feet long. Our neighbor's (fortunately smallish) street tree is...rather more literal about the 'street' part than is normally the case.

And traffic is a mess.

But no significant property damage, unless you count the trees, anywhere I've been so far. And no injuries I'm aware of. Fingers crossed!
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Tuesday, April 4th, 2017 07:26 pm
I don't think I can agree to the new LJ user agreement. It is subject to Russian law, the translation to English isn't binding and I don't read Russian so I'm reliant on translation, it allows them to email advertisements to me (!), and they can change it any time they want without notice and the changes instantly apply the next time you use the site.

I don't think I have much of interest to the Russian government. But *anyone still breathing* is of interest to advertisers - and possibly some people who aren't - and I trust these folks about as far as I can throw their entire country.

I wish I had a way, without accepting the agreement, to post. I'm told cross-posting won't work until you accept, but I'm going to try.

I hate to leave behind the folks I only see on LJ, who don't mostly post public. (The ones who do post public, I can still follow, and decide if I want to comment.) But I also really, really can't stay any longer. I'm rather regretting not leaving when they moved the servers, but at the time, I weighed the issues and wanted to stay with the people there.

ETA: Alas, as expected, this can't cross-post. At least it will hopefully be visible here for anyone who looks?
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Wednesday, March 15th, 2017 06:50 pm
Some days I feel like I'm in a parenting comic.

On the way to pick up Andrew, Ian had a discussion with me about gender.

On the way home, Andrew out of the blue asked if we will have another baby...because we could play more games if we had another player in the family.

You know you have a gamer when they want a sibling to increase the gaming pool? Sigh.




Also? Be careful what you ask for and how you phrase it.

Me, some while ago: "Ian, sometimes you just come up and start talking, but I'm in the middle of something. You get frustrated when I don't listen; I get frustrated because I missed some of what you said. Instead, can you say 'Mom, can I tell you something?' and then wait until I say 'yes' and turn my attention to you, and then tell me?"

Ian, then: "Sure! Mom, can I tell you something?"

...

Ian, now: "Mom, can I tell you something?"

Me: "Yes."

Ian: (Tells me something.) "Mom, can I tell you something?"

Me: "...yes."

Ian: (Tells me the next sentence of the same thing.) "Mom, can I tell you something?"

Etc. This can go on for six or eight repeats.

I asked for this but this was not what I meant! Now to find a way to phrase the correction that will walk it back just enough but not too much. It's hard in the moment, because I'm just sitting there thinking, *don't reply with "can I stop you?", don't*....
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Sunday, February 26th, 2017 04:03 pm
Ask me for my top five favorite [blank] — any subject (but bear in mind that if I'm not comfy with it or it doesn't apply, I may get creative), and I will do my best to answer.
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Sunday, February 26th, 2017 08:39 am
I am not bailing on LiveJournal. I don't love where their servers are, but I also don't think that Russia is likely to have any interest in my parenting or my cats or whatever. :P

However, this weekend for a while, LJ had blocked all the Dreamwidth servers from accessing their site, which blocked the Dreamwidth integrated cross-posting.

Which is what I use to post on LJ. I read and comment directly there when I do, but I post from DW.

So, since we don't know if that might happen again - if you're on LJ but _also_ active on DW, and you haven't already, you should probably add me on DW since that's my "posting home" and the posts are guaranteed to show up there.

If you're not on DW, don't worry - I will still cross-post and read there, I'm not telling you to go to DW - I'm just letting you know that if cross-posting fails, some things may go missing for a little bit.
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Wednesday, February 22nd, 2017 08:28 pm
...but I <3 <3 <3 inline commenting on my reading page.
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Monday, February 6th, 2017 06:22 pm
This is a thing that happens, and that I wish would not. Someone says "hey, write to your Congress critter about" or "I wrote to my Congress critter about" or "If you are writing to your Congress critter about things, here is a note of ways that make it more effective".

And then someone comes along and says "BUT you should call them to be effective."

This is true. It is a good response to "what is the best way to contact my Congress critter?" or _perhaps_ to "I am going to contact my Congress critter about X". And maybe with a "did you know?" to the first or second above, maybe. To the third it is not germane.

I mostly write my Congress critters. I save calling for the most urgent things because it's damnably inconvenient and takes time for me also. If I only call, then I will contact them about WAY fewer things.

And I'm very VERY TIRED of this to be frank. I have heard it several times. I know. And it comes across as criticism.

Which frankly?

If I didn't actually care as much as I do, and I took the "this is the Best Way to do it and you're wasting your time doing it that other way" message to heart, I might just _stop doing it_.

It is entirely possible that there are people you have told "should" be calling who have decided their writing isn't enough, but who lack the time, spoons, or willingness to call...and who are now thus doing neither.
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Wednesday, February 1st, 2017 06:24 pm
So, the current forecast says we're probably getting freezing rain again tomorrow night after midnight (so Friday morning really).

At least it's supposed to thaw off Friday instead of hanging around forever, at least as far south as we are. And who knows? Some of the "storms" we were supposed to have had, barely materialized or not at all. Another was way worse than predicted. I guess we'll see what it looks like when we get there!
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Sunday, January 29th, 2017 06:23 pm
I think my anti-sinus-infection measures are actually hitting it back. It got pretty bad yesterday and this morning, but...I'm doing better as of about noon. Morning will be worse again, it always is, but...maybe just maybe I don't need antibiotics here. That would make me happy.
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Saturday, January 28th, 2017 08:42 pm
Also, I do NOT need a sinus infection. I clearly have one. Sigh. I just saw my doctor for my physical, and I still thought I was beating this sucker back at that point. Well, since I'm currently debating whether to go to urgent care or soldier on until Monday, that's never good. :P Oh well.
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Monday, January 23rd, 2017 06:55 pm
Andrew's registration fees for the after-school enrichment courses this term is paid. And Ian's kindergarten registration is filed now, and I can forget about it for the time being. Yay! It's different from when Andrew entered kindergarten, but not by a lot. No choice of half-day or full-day (it's all full-day now) and no fee for full-day. But now you need a form that they've had a dental and vision check. Before that was not required (although Andrew had had both; they simply didn't care if I had proof or not).

Also today, Andrew's backup pair of glasses arrived. He likes them, though hopefully he won't need to wear them often.

Tomorrow I have a meeting at Ian's preschool. Wednesday I have my annual physical (and have to fast for it, because blood tests), and Andrew has a dental appointment in the afternoon (which Scott is handling, fortunately for my ability to get work done). Thursday will hopefully be the day that I pick up Apple. Friday we have the gaming group over in the evening.

Saturday I may hibernate. ;)
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Sunday, January 22nd, 2017 01:49 pm
I mean, that veto on the security council, maybe kinda nice not to throw away. The World Health Organization, sort of a good thing. Giving the finger to cooperation (which is how it will be interpreted no matter how it's meant), maybe unwise. And so on.

IMO, this needs to die in committee. Badly.

This is not a news site; this is the Congressional web site summary. This bill would lead us (require us) to exit the United Nations.

Their web site is currently 503'ing a lot. I don't know if they're having server issues, or just getting slammed because of this. I got lucky and the original page opened on the first try, but I've had to refresh a few times as I moved between the tabs to view different things.

Summary as currently listed on the page:
American Sovereignty Restoration Act of 2017

This bill repeals the United Nations Participation Act of 1945 and other specified related laws.

The bill requires: (1) the President to terminate U.S. membership in the United Nations (U.N.), including any organ, specialized agency, commission, or other formally affiliated body; and (2) closure of the U.S. Mission to the United Nations.

The bill prohibits: (1) the authorization of funds for the U.S. assessed or voluntary contribution to the U.N., (2) the authorization of funds for any U.S. contribution to any U.N. military or peacekeeping operation, (3) the expenditure of funds to support the participation of U.S. Armed Forces as part of any U.N. military or peacekeeping operation, (4) U.S. Armed Forces from serving under U.N. command, and (5) diplomatic immunity for U.N. officers or employees.


From the actual text: "Except as otherwise provided, this Act and the amendments made by this Act shall take effect on the date that is two years after the date of the enactment of this Act."

So, in the hopefully-unlikely event that they pass this, they're just arguing even more strongly for a turnover of every seat that voted for it in 2018....
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Sunday, January 22nd, 2017 01:47 pm
Mmmmmmmm. Clam Chowder (Jake's, from a can...so sue me) was always among my favorite things growing up. YUM. And...then I had to go lactose-free. Clam Chowder generally doesn't work with that. And then I went low-FODMAP...onions, celery...oops.

So. Today I have GLORIOUS clam chowder, richer than what I was used to, but in a very good way.
I started with https://fructosefreeme.com/tag/clam-chowder/ and made the following changes:
  • Substitute Earth's Balance one-to-one for butter
  • Substitute lactose-free whole milk one-to-one for cream
  • Completely omit celery
  • Use only 1.5 turnips (because shredding turnips is a pain...)
  • Substitute 1/2 tsp dried thyme (because I had it)
  • Substitute 3 ounces of chopped cooked bacon intended for topping salads (because I'm lazy)


And thus, add the bacon/Earth's balance/turnip all at once initially and cook for 8-10 minutes, then move on with the recipe.

Oh MAN is it good. Ian liked it so much he asked for seconds. Scott and Andrew had taquitos, but I expected that.