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Friday, January 18th, 2019 05:03 pm
When it's over, I want to say all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
-Mary Oliver, "When Death Comes"

It came. It came, and we wish it never had, but I think you lived your life in such a way that you can indeed say that.

We will miss you, and treasure the words you gave us.
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Tuesday, October 24th, 2017 06:56 am
(Actually, despite the subject line, I got up at my usual time! I just didn't go into work right away, but woke Andrew up and helped him get ready. I'll work later this afternoon, and get the same amount of time and effort in.)

WHEE. Both boys have a field trip today's; Andrew's is long. He had to be at school at 6:45 (an hour before he normally has to be there) and will be back at the end of the school day. But he got up early (when prompted, but without any difficulty getting up), got ready, and actually had time to play games before he had to go out the door.

Ian is awake and mostly ready; his bus to school isn't for another 20 minutes yet. (Their field trip is three hours start-to-finish, so no early arrival for him.)

I suspect the third grade gathering at 6:45 is partly due to how many things they're packing in, and partly due to the fact that they're headed up the Gorge - which means about a 65 mile drive each way, and that they're running the same direction as commute traffic for the first 25 miles or more. I wouldn't want to do that at 8 am, either.
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Friday, October 13th, 2017 10:42 pm
So. When I pack a banana as a snack, I take a Sharpie and write a little note on it. Sometimes it's sweet or kind or encouraging.

Often it is, instead, a joke. Usually a corny joke - which around here gets called "a Mom joke" if that tells you anything. :)

So, I think earlier this week but maybe it was late last, I sent them in with bananas that read:
Q: What do you call a fish with no eyes?

A: A fsh!

This is funny, and I thought Ian in particular would get a good laugh out of it. I was right, but I was a little underestimating, apparently. At parent-teacher conference yesterday, his teacher told me he enjoyed it greatly. Then he told it to her a couple times. And he told it to all his classmates, all of whom started laughing. (She's not sure they all got it - some just liked saying 'fsh!' she thinks, or found it funny because everyone else did.) Then they told it to each other. And her.

...I wonder how many parents got to hear about fsh! that night.

There's a variant in our house now - I first heard it from Ian, apparently he got it from Andrew, and where Andrew got it I am not sure.
Q: What do you call a fish with no eyes?

A: A leaky pipe! *hand gestures of water splashing out* FSH! Mom joke has been one-upped, even.
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Sunday, August 13th, 2017 08:49 am
Those who are familiar with Badge Magic are probably saying "oh no" based on that subject line. For those who are not: it is an adhesive used to attach Scout emblems and patches to uniform shirts. It's also designed to be fully removeable, leaving the shirt and patches reusable; as such, it's not as strong as sewing them on or using an iron on or fusing item, but it's much more convenient if your Scout outgrows the shirt but still needs those patches. And of course, it has its own arcane rules. (It's also more convenient because you can use it without any special tools but a pair of scissors, although access to a dryer is preferred - it heat-sets in the dryer, which is ideal, but it's pretty good at what it does even before that step.)

So, yesterday, I did a load of kids' laundry. I knew that Andrew's class-A Cub Scout shirt was in there, but I forgot, and just tossed it in the washer. Ooops. You should wash these things inside-out (even if you sew on the badges, it's probably a good idea; if you use Badge Magic you definitely should) so all the edges of all those patches don't catch on things and get pulled away.

I kind of got lucky - I spotted it post-wash and fixed it before the dryer, so at least they didn't continue to get pried off, and also none of them came all the way off (although one of the little segments came close).

So I dried it and figured that today I would try to reattach all the loose bits with more Badge Magic. If you know badge magic, you can guess the alternative and the details. If you don't, they're here, but probably still boring. )

Laura's monologue this morning:
  • I hope Badge Magic can save me.
  • Oh, this is going to be tedious.
  • There, got one on! This is going to work. I love Badge Magic. Of course, that was one of the two easy ones because it peeled so far back, but still, this is going to work.
  • Ugh, how big a piece do I need here?
  • I hate Badge Magic. No, get OFF my FINGERS.
  • There. Try again. Oh, that worked. Fiddly, but it worked. I love Badge Magic.
  • This segment almost came off. I'll just take it off, rough-clean the area without solvent, and put it back on.
  • Why could it not have been the Raingutter Regatta segment that came off? I wanted to replace that one with the other segment for that with the other color set, anyway.
  • Oh, I hate Badge Magic. Good thing I'm not going to put my fingers in the dryer, but I'd like the use of my thumb back.
  • Um, no, no, no. No gluing the scissors shut.
  • Arrrgh, what was this pre-attached badge attached with? Well, it wasn't sewn and all the others were, so I'm hoping it was Badge Magic. Even if it wasn't, it should still work to do it now.
  • Hey, it worked! Oh, argh, get OFF my FINGERS you stuff. There.

I showed Scott the results pre-heat-set and he agreed they looked good. Into the dryer for 10 minutes to heat-set it (an optional but highly recommended step) and lay it flat to settle after. I think it's all back to normal, and if not, I'll just have to tweak a few corners. Which is, um, when I'm most likely to temporarily stick my fingers together. At least it isn't superglue.

Given all this, I figure that next month Andrew will have a sudden growth spurt and outgrow the shirt, because that is just my luck. :P
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Tuesday, July 4th, 2017 08:49 am
That was a good idea AND a bad idea. Last night we went to the fireworks at the Oregon Garden. The garden itself is lovely, supposed to have a good fireworks show, and it was the only one in the area on the 3rd that I could find. I didn't want us all up late and exhausted before going to work/camp/preschool tomorrow. And hey, music from 6 pm while we wait, too.

I knew we'd pay for it in the food on site being marked up (which it was, and which we did), and with leaving at 10:30 and having to drive an hour home.

What actually happened: we joined others who parked at the remote lot and bused up. (We should have tried the main lot, it wasn't full yet. Oops.) Anyway, the evening was nice, the fireworks were glorious, and then at 10:30 we left. The music continued for another hour, but again, hour drive.

Shoulda stayed for the music. Because according to what the guy doing announcements said just before or after the fireworks (I forget which), there were 6000 people there. And a goodly number of them all left when we did.

And the buses had trouble getting through because of all the cars in the parking lot leaving. And a laaaaarge contingent of folks needing the bus left when we did.

We finally got to our car at 11:45. We would've gotten there about 5-10 minutes later if we'd stayed for all the music..... WHEE. (Well, maybe. We also might have missed the last bus, because I'm not sure how long walking down would have taken us.)

Scott ended up carrying Ian for the last 10 minutes of the line, and the entire bus ride, because Ian was too tired to stand up and walk when the line moved, and as you might expect from that description, as soon as Scott picked him up he fell asleep on Scott's shoulder.

They have an on-site hotel that you can check in to and enjoy and watch the fireworks from there, and some year we may do that. But we also may just take July 5th off next year and go to Canby's show. They have a lovely show, it's just on the actual 4th.

Last night was gorgeous, though. Very tired. But gorgeous.

(And nope, for once I did not take photos. I wanted to strictly watch the fireworks and I did.)
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Sunday, May 28th, 2017 10:01 am
Today, I re-shared on Facebook something I also shared three years ago - an image of someone giving a cup of coffee to a homeless person, with the statement, "The world is full of nice people. If you can't find one, be one." I added, as I shared it, "This. And if you can find one, be one anyway. The world is full of nice people, and that's something we want to keep going, please."

Yesterday, I needed to go get potting mix. Which meant I was at Home Depot on Memorial Day weekend, which is really not when I would prefer to go there. The parking lot was a zoo. I saw someone start backing up then look THEN stop...just before he would have collided with the woman who had been walking behind his car before he put it in reverse. He DID stop and wait until she wasn't behind him. She was about to return her cart to the corral; I was returning mine and offered to walk hers over, after that incident. She thanked me...and was partway across the same space when she had to backpedal hastily to avoid being hit by the flaming idiot who came into the aisle (it was about the fourth space in) and headed for the space at a decent clip, slowing only a little when they realized SOMEONE WAS WALKING THERE.

When I left the parking lot, I had trouble getting out because of the lines of cars, and someone cut me off when they could visibly see I'd been waiting longer.

All this is to say that I was grumpy, agitated, and very nervous about people in general as I left. And I made a conscious, deliberate decision to let people in. It's too easy when we're grumpy to just go auto-pilot through our day and not delay it any further. After all, I'd already been delayed and worried and bothered! It felt good to be kind instead.

This is not I'm a saint. I'm pretty cruddy at this, actually. But I still do it. Because that's the kind of world I want to live in. Because it feels good.

I'm not saying that being nice or kind or standing up is always easy. Nor that it's always safe; in some circumstances there may be objective risks that outweigh being nice in your circumstance.

Side note about a good-samaritan case where two of them died, recently in the news )

...but often it _is_ simpler than that. What if you let someone turn out of a driveway during heavy traffic? Let someone with only a couple items go ahead of you in a grocery store? It's a small thing. Maybe all it does is brighten their day. Maybe it actually makes their life much easier than you realize. But if "all" it does is brighten their day, and _they_ go on to interact with the world more kindly....

Well. Many big things are built of lots and lots of small things. Not all. But many.
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Sunday, April 30th, 2017 07:45 pm
Hope is a verb - an action, not (just) a feeling. It can be a choice.

That doesn't mean it's easy, but it does mean it's possible.

(So is getting to bed on time, if I get back to what I'm supposed to be doing, so I think I'll post this and get back to the evening chores.)
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Thursday, April 27th, 2017 08:09 pm
Mostly because I have one again. I've been on antibiotics since Tuesday night, though, and it's responsive to decongestants again. Progress!
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Saturday, April 15th, 2017 09:12 am
Town Easter egg "hunt" in less than an hour now. Hunt is in quotes because they just set the plastic eggs out on the grass at the ball fields and turn the kids loose age-by-age in separate sections.

Candy, prizes, all that. Yes, we're going. Wish me luck, but this is the only scheduled thing I need to deal with this weekend. (Scott is taking Ian to a birthday party tho.)

And as usual, my instruction to my kids will be: NO PUSHING, whether they're smaller or bigger than you. This is a non-contact sport.

His first year doing it, Ian stopped and opened eggs, and got all of three. He doesn't do that any more, but you know, I'm fine with it if he does. I like watching them get all excited. I don't mind if they don't get anything else out of it.
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Tuesday, April 11th, 2017 10:01 pm

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Friday, April 7th, 2017 06:38 pm
My LiveJournal is now deleted. I wasn't able to post a forwarding message - I wouldn't agree to the new Terms of Service just for that purpose. Using the ScriptSafe extension, however, I could get to the page needed to delete my journal.

I've been cross-posting with a Dreamwidth footer for a long time, and also it's the same user name, so hopefully anyone who wants to find me here can.

I am going to leave my parents' journals up there. They are done no harm by that, and while I doubt anyone (even me) still goes to look at them - if they do, then there's no reason to take them off.
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Friday, April 7th, 2017 05:38 pm
(Crossposted with Facebook, yes.)

Good flamin' gravy.

Ian's entire preschool was indoors all day...reasonably...because first thing this morning a tree came down between the two buildings, missing both of them and also any people, but clearly setting the tone for the day.

Andrew got to do recess in his classroom today, for similar reasoning, minus the object demonstration by mother nature.

Trees along my work parking lot had dropped branches as big around as my wrist or bigger, and ten+ feet long. Our neighbor's (fortunately smallish) street tree is...rather more literal about the 'street' part than is normally the case.

And traffic is a mess.

But no significant property damage, unless you count the trees, anywhere I've been so far. And no injuries I'm aware of. Fingers crossed!
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Tuesday, April 4th, 2017 07:26 pm
I don't think I can agree to the new LJ user agreement. It is subject to Russian law, the translation to English isn't binding and I don't read Russian so I'm reliant on translation, it allows them to email advertisements to me (!), and they can change it any time they want without notice and the changes instantly apply the next time you use the site.

I don't think I have much of interest to the Russian government. But *anyone still breathing* is of interest to advertisers - and possibly some people who aren't - and I trust these folks about as far as I can throw their entire country.

I wish I had a way, without accepting the agreement, to post. I'm told cross-posting won't work until you accept, but I'm going to try.

I hate to leave behind the folks I only see on LJ, who don't mostly post public. (The ones who do post public, I can still follow, and decide if I want to comment.) But I also really, really can't stay any longer. I'm rather regretting not leaving when they moved the servers, but at the time, I weighed the issues and wanted to stay with the people there.

ETA: Alas, as expected, this can't cross-post. At least it will hopefully be visible here for anyone who looks?
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Wednesday, March 15th, 2017 06:50 pm
Some days I feel like I'm in a parenting comic.

On the way to pick up Andrew, Ian had a discussion with me about gender.

On the way home, Andrew out of the blue asked if we will have another baby...because we could play more games if we had another player in the family.

You know you have a gamer when they want a sibling to increase the gaming pool? Sigh.

Also? Be careful what you ask for and how you phrase it.

Me, some while ago: "Ian, sometimes you just come up and start talking, but I'm in the middle of something. You get frustrated when I don't listen; I get frustrated because I missed some of what you said. Instead, can you say 'Mom, can I tell you something?' and then wait until I say 'yes' and turn my attention to you, and then tell me?"

Ian, then: "Sure! Mom, can I tell you something?"


Ian, now: "Mom, can I tell you something?"

Me: "Yes."

Ian: (Tells me something.) "Mom, can I tell you something?"

Me: "...yes."

Ian: (Tells me the next sentence of the same thing.) "Mom, can I tell you something?"

Etc. This can go on for six or eight repeats.

I asked for this but this was not what I meant! Now to find a way to phrase the correction that will walk it back just enough but not too much. It's hard in the moment, because I'm just sitting there thinking, *don't reply with "can I stop you?", don't*....
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Sunday, February 26th, 2017 04:03 pm
Ask me for my top five favorite [blank] — any subject (but bear in mind that if I'm not comfy with it or it doesn't apply, I may get creative), and I will do my best to answer.
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Sunday, February 26th, 2017 08:39 am
I am not bailing on LiveJournal. I don't love where their servers are, but I also don't think that Russia is likely to have any interest in my parenting or my cats or whatever. :P

However, this weekend for a while, LJ had blocked all the Dreamwidth servers from accessing their site, which blocked the Dreamwidth integrated cross-posting.

Which is what I use to post on LJ. I read and comment directly there when I do, but I post from DW.

So, since we don't know if that might happen again - if you're on LJ but _also_ active on DW, and you haven't already, you should probably add me on DW since that's my "posting home" and the posts are guaranteed to show up there.

If you're not on DW, don't worry - I will still cross-post and read there, I'm not telling you to go to DW - I'm just letting you know that if cross-posting fails, some things may go missing for a little bit.
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Wednesday, February 22nd, 2017 08:28 pm
...but I <3 <3 <3 inline commenting on my reading page.
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Monday, February 6th, 2017 06:22 pm
This is a thing that happens, and that I wish would not. Someone says "hey, write to your Congress critter about" or "I wrote to my Congress critter about" or "If you are writing to your Congress critter about things, here is a note of ways that make it more effective".

And then someone comes along and says "BUT you should call them to be effective."

This is true. It is a good response to "what is the best way to contact my Congress critter?" or _perhaps_ to "I am going to contact my Congress critter about X". And maybe with a "did you know?" to the first or second above, maybe. To the third it is not germane.

I mostly write my Congress critters. I save calling for the most urgent things because it's damnably inconvenient and takes time for me also. If I only call, then I will contact them about WAY fewer things.

And I'm very VERY TIRED of this to be frank. I have heard it several times. I know. And it comes across as criticism.

Which frankly?

If I didn't actually care as much as I do, and I took the "this is the Best Way to do it and you're wasting your time doing it that other way" message to heart, I might just _stop doing it_.

It is entirely possible that there are people you have told "should" be calling who have decided their writing isn't enough, but who lack the time, spoons, or willingness to call...and who are now thus doing neither.
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Wednesday, February 1st, 2017 06:24 pm
So, the current forecast says we're probably getting freezing rain again tomorrow night after midnight (so Friday morning really).

At least it's supposed to thaw off Friday instead of hanging around forever, at least as far south as we are. And who knows? Some of the "storms" we were supposed to have had, barely materialized or not at all. Another was way worse than predicted. I guess we'll see what it looks like when we get there!
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Sunday, January 29th, 2017 06:23 pm
I think my anti-sinus-infection measures are actually hitting it back. It got pretty bad yesterday and this morning, but...I'm doing better as of about noon. Morning will be worse again, it always is, but...maybe just maybe I don't need antibiotics here. That would make me happy.