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It's not that I don't agree with the woman who maintains it or her points of view in general. It IS that she emphasizes the most extreme, ridiculous ways modern society (modern America, mostly) hampers our kids from growing.
And far, far more, it IS the comments. The people who are appalled that parents treat their kids as competent human beings (oh noes!) and tailor what they let the kiddos do to their actual capabilities / development. The people who are sanctimonious at everyone who is nervous about same, or about society's reaction to same.
The Perfect Moms who think that, you know, they are All That and we oughta do it their way.
The working (out of the home) moms who don't understand the social interests/needs of the stay-at-home moms and work-from-home moms. The SAHM/WFHM who don't understand, nor care to understand, the limited schedules of the ones working out of the home.
And on and on.
This gem from today really had me irritated (and it's from someone who does, I notice, tend to have that effect on me): "I want my kids to be popular and have lots of friends and party invites and the way I do that is by buddying up to the moms and I get new friends too."
...wow. You know, not every kid even WANTS lots of friends/party invites. Some people only want one or a few close friends. Some people want depth. Maybe her kids want that. Maybe not. But I also boggle that she thinks she ought to provide it. Is she going to follow them to college and try to find them friends by networking with the other mothers who follow their kids to college? Oh, wait....
And far, far more, it IS the comments. The people who are appalled that parents treat their kids as competent human beings (oh noes!) and tailor what they let the kiddos do to their actual capabilities / development. The people who are sanctimonious at everyone who is nervous about same, or about society's reaction to same.
The Perfect Moms who think that, you know, they are All That and we oughta do it their way.
The working (out of the home) moms who don't understand the social interests/needs of the stay-at-home moms and work-from-home moms. The SAHM/WFHM who don't understand, nor care to understand, the limited schedules of the ones working out of the home.
And on and on.
This gem from today really had me irritated (and it's from someone who does, I notice, tend to have that effect on me): "I want my kids to be popular and have lots of friends and party invites and the way I do that is by buddying up to the moms and I get new friends too."
...wow. You know, not every kid even WANTS lots of friends/party invites. Some people only want one or a few close friends. Some people want depth. Maybe her kids want that. Maybe not. But I also boggle that she thinks she ought to provide it. Is she going to follow them to college and try to find them friends by networking with the other mothers who follow their kids to college? Oh, wait....
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There's a big difference between teaching socialization skills, which I believe is critically important, and using children as a thinly-veiled justification for your own narcissism.
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Doing it "for" your kid is another, and frankly I don't know that the lessons it teaches the kids are ones you want to be teaching, really....
Kids notice more than some folks give them credit for. Including motivations like these, I suspect....